Coaching is a dialogue

Coaching consist of dialogues about the client’s problems and solutions, dialogues in which the coach asks questions to help the client find solutions to what he set out to achieve. It is important to say that the coaching conversations are dialogues – not discussions, nor debates, nor small talk.

A dialogue is a form of conversation where several conditions are met:

  1. the two parties (coach and client) are mutually perceived as equal;

  2. the two parties suspend their judgments of other’s opinions;

  3. there is a facilitator of the dialogue/ a “conversation process owner” – the coach – who manages for the first 2 rules to be observed.

Rhythm and location

Usually, the coaching sessions take place online (lately) and/ or offline, sometimes even by telephone. At the beginning of the coaching relationship or program, the intensity of the sessions is higher (quantitatively and qualitatively) and the sessions are weekly. Afterward, there are biweekly and then monthly sessions.

What does the coach during a regular coaching session

  1. gives you attentive listening; 

  2. gives you feedback and new insights into the patterns of your life that help you and into those that keep you from getting what you want; 

  3. asks you questions that guide you to find new solutions; 

  4. gives you topics of disciplined practice for developing skills; 

  5. gives you learning resources in the direction you choose.  

What can you get from coaching?

  1. Plan to obtain something – certain tangible results (higher salary, promotion, new job, etc.); 

  2. Learn to do something better – raising certain good habits and abilities and partially improving some unwanted ones; 

  3. Become different – exercise new attitudes, more appropriate in certain conditions.